Power Through Emotional Intelligence
Personal Power is an Emotional Intelligence (EQ) competency you`re probably familiar with by another name. It`s your sense of being able to handle yourself and your life. It`s the opposite of the €śvictim€ť position, where you feel helpless and hopeless. Instead, when you`ve developed your Personal Power , you feel confident to help yourself, and to ask for help when you need it, and you feel positive about outcomes. You are more willing to take action, and to use solution-focused problem-solving, instead of emotion -focused problem-solving.
You may have thought when you read the title of this article, it was referring to your power in the external world and it is, but this comes only when you have the Personal Power within. You create your world by your thoughts and beliefs, and if you feel helpless and hopeless, you`ll create these outcomes. When you have a quiet sense of Personal Power, you are able to accomplish more, and will come to say, €śIf I couldn`t do it, nobody could`ve.€ť
So how do you develop your Personal Power? You can`t function fully until you know yourself, and to know your SELF is to know your FEELINGS. We are our emotions and they are there to guide us.
People in the victim position don`t know what they think or feel, and feel they have no rights. Assertiveness is believing in rights €` yours and others. It means treating others with respect, and yourself as well. The cornerstone of Emotional Intelligence is self-awareness, and you begin this by doing an EQ Checking often during the day. Ask yourself, €śHow am I feeling, emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually?€ť
I`ve found in teleclasses that most people can talk immediately about how they feel physically, but don`t know what €śmentally,€ť €śemotionally,€ť and/or €śspiritually€ť mean, so I`ll define them so you can get started.
HOW DO YOU FEEL MENTALLY? This refers to your ability to think. Are you alert? Full of ideas? Sluggish? Unable to process? If I asked you to do a math problem, or generate some alternate solutions to a dilemma, how would you do? This is what €śmental€ť is about €` your ability to handle information, facts, draw conclusions, formulate a thought, solve a problem, and perform other thought processes.
HO
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